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The 3 Keys To Successful/Effective Leadership

May 4, 2015 » Successful/Effective Leadership

To be relevant, leaders must be successful. To last, they must be effective. To be successful/effective leaders they must consistently achieve successful results while developing collegial, collaborative, effective relationships.

There Are Four Kinds of Leaders:

  • Those who make things happen
  • Those to whom things happen
  • Those who watch things happen
  • Those who don’t know things are happening

Successful/Effective leaders make things happen. They are winners. The kind of leaders who can step on people’s shoes without spoiling their shine.

How Did They Become Successful/Effective Leaders?

They learned the answers to 3 key questions: what they must BE, what they must DO and what they must HAVE to consistently achieve successful results while developing collegial, collaborative, effective relationships.

What Successful/Effective Leaders Must BE

A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions, and the compassion to listen to the needs of others. He does not set out to be a leader, but becomes one by the equality of his actions and the integrity of his intentDouglas MacArthur

  1. The kind of people who make things happen. They face issues head on and focus their efforts on producing a desired effect.
  2. Authentic. They promote openness by honestly sharing their thoughts and beliefs in a way that values, includes, supports and gives fair-minded consideration to the views of others.
  3. Change agents. They quickly recognize what must be changed and, if necessary, who must be changed in order to meet organizational goals.
  4. Decision makers. They’re willing to make the tough decisions – and make them fast.
  5. Team builders. They bring unique elements and people together to work as a single unit whose whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
  6. Mentors. They invest much of their time and energy developing followers and nurturing relationships.
  7. Self-aware. They’re aware of their “Relating Styles” tendencies (results-oriented or relationship-oriented), strengths, weaknesses and situational appropriateness and the impact they have on both results and relationships.
  8. Emotionally intelligent. They know when and how not to make a bad situation worse, but rather how to make it better.
As we look ahead into the next century, leaders will be those who empower others. Bill Gates Click To Tweet

What Successful/Effective Leaders Must DO

Good business leaders create a vision, articulate the vision, passionately own the vision, and relentlessly drive it to completion. Jack Welch

  1. Exhibit a high level of authenticity and integrity. They demonstrate honesty, fairness and transparency, and are willing and prepared to do the “right thing”.
  2. Continually communicate the organization’s vision, values and expectations. They ask questions, seek counsel, provide continuous feedback, and measure, recognize and reward performance to give life to the vision.
  3. Lead by example. They are passionate about group goals and accept accountability when the team falls short of its objectives.
  4. Collaborate with people to create a positive energy and collegial workplace culture. They are always open-minded, valuing the ideas, opinions and innovative solutions that others bring to the table.
  5. Persuade rather than command. When points of view, interests and/or preferences are different or in conflict, they negotiate skillfully with a win/win focus.
  6. Gain the respect, trust and loyalty of those they lead and those they follow. This is achieved through transparency, humility and the employment of a leadership and communication approach that successfully achieves results, and simultaneously builds collegial relationships.
  7. Develop future leaders. They make leadership development a personal strategic objective by identifying and accelerating the development of high potentials within the organization.
  8. Adapt to change. The business and professional world is changing so rapidly, that successful leaders are intelligent leaders who continually read, adapt and learn new skills to survive.

The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant. Max DePree

What Successful/Effective Leaders must HAVE

The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority. Ken Blanchard Click To Tweet
  1. Intelligence, relevant business and professional knowledge, experience and skills. They must be coupled with the motivation, commitment, confidence, high level of energy and passion to BE and DO what is necessary to consistently achieve results while developing collegial, collaborative relationships.
  2. Mental toughness and persistence. When the going gets tough, they have the self-confidence, ability and coping skills to keep moving forward positively in stressful, uncertain situations by recognizing they can’t control the chaos but can control their own emotions, behavior, words and actions.
  3. Support of those they lead and follow. They achieve this by relating to these individuals in a way that is inclusive and collegial and by spending the necessary time and energy to get to know those they lead and follow both personally and professionally.
  4. Self-control. They’re able to control disruptive emotions and impulses during interactions by tolerating difficult people and situations; by “not taking things personally”; and by always recognizing and respecting the rights, opinions and practices of others.
  5. Situational control. They know how to adapt their relationship or results-oriented relating style appropriately to the demands of the situation by employing a mutual problem orientation – a “doing it with” focus to positively influence the outcome of business and professional interactions.
  6. Communication and relating skills to articulate their ideas clearly, concisely, simply and in a collegial manner. They have the communication and relating skills to develop rapport, mutuality, landscape vision and win/win solutions in difficult situations where the points of view, interests or preferred solutions are different or in conflict.
  7. Confidence and skill to deal with difficult people and situations. They have the ability to recognize patterns of difficult behavior and circumstances and employ approaches that produce successful/effective results.
  8. A sense of humor. This is an absolute must that gets leaders through the days when down is up and up is down and they start to feel as if they’re the only sane ones around.
Leaders understand the ultimate power of relationships. Tom Peters Click To Tweet

There Are No Shortcuts to Successful/Effective Leadership

Leaders aren’t born, they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work. And that’s the price we will have to pay to achieve that goal, or any goal. Vince Lombardi

Successful/Effective leadership is something that is earned on a developmental journey that many attempt but few complete. Those who do complete the journey are winners who stand on a pedestal above all others because they have developed the attributes, competencies and skills that successful/effective leaders must have in order to achieve Results with Relationship.

They’re relevant leaders who last because they consistently achieve results based on their personal rather than positional power, while establishing collegial, collaborative, effective relationships with the people they lead and those they follow. They are successful/effective leaders who make things happen. They are winners.

Communication is the real work of leadership. It’s a fundamental element of how leaders accomplish their goals each and every day. You simply can’t become a great leader until you are a great communicator. Travis Bradbury

Leaders who do reach such a status are truly special. They not only learned the 3 key questions: what they must BE, what they must DO and what they must HAVE in order to consistently achieve successful Results with Relationship, they earned the answers. They have the knowledge, abilities and skills to be great leaders and great communicators.

Dr. Don MacRae is the author and passionate leader of Situational Communication® and the CEO of Lachlan Enterprises Incorporated (The Lachlan Group).

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